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Posted:Sep 22, 2019 7:14 pm
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if you know someone with narcissism I sorry for you. Here is a list of symptoms that I wish I would have known. Maybe I could have salvaged our relationship? It sure does explain things. There is no cure or meds to take please pray for these afflicted people. I would love to try again with him maybe things could be different.

1. Always Talk About Themselves
Those with NPD tend think and speak of themselves, often about their physical appearance, talents or achievements. However, these comments tend be exaggerated and are not necessarily accurate reflections of their lives.
They also have little regard for those around them, rarely, if ever, asking others about their thoughts or feelings. This is because people suffer from NPD lack empathy and are therefore unable recognize or understand the needs and feelings of others. “You could start talking a person about how you have cancer, and pretty soon you’re talking about their new car,” says Keith Campbell, a narcissism researcher and co-author of The Narcissism Epidemic: Living in the Age of Entitlement the Huffington Post.

2. Fantasize
According to the Mayo Clinic, the minds of people with NPD tend to be filled with elaborate fantasies about “success, power, brilliance, beauty or the perfect mate.” As a result of these imaginings, they feel they should have the best of everything—including houses, cars and clothing or other status-affirming things, such as their level of medical care and where they attend .
Unfortunately, these fantasies are a way for narcissists “fend off inner emptiness, feel special and in control and avoid feelings of defectiveness and insignificance.” And because they are rarely rooted in reality, it can lead immense frustration and anger when these visions are not achieved.

3. Believe They Are Superior
Psychology Today states that people with NPD often have “a grandiose sense of self-importance,” leading them to feel superior to most. They believe that others are just as special as they are can truly understand them, and those are the people they want be surrounded by.
In order maintain feelings of superiority, they will resort belittling others by focusing on their flaws—whether they’re real or imagined. For narcissists, this is an effective way hide their own shortcomings and preserve their self-image.

4. Require Constant Praise
Despite how outwardly confident narcissists may portray themselves, they are often incredibly insecure and have very fragile self-esteem. In order continually prop themselves up, people with NPD require near-constant praise and admiration. They also expect be “recognized as superior even without achievements that warrant it,” says the Mayo Clinic.
This fragility when it comes sense of self also makes narcissists highly reactive criticism. Any comments that shine a spotlight on their deepest insecurities or flaws may be met with a burst of “narcissistic rage,” causing the person lie or divert the conversation in an entirely different direction.

5. Sense of Entitlement
People with NPD tend have a sense of entitlement, expecting others offer them special favors and fulfill their requests without question. If such treatment isn’t awarded them, they may become impatient or angry. According Psychology Today, this is because narcissists view others as “existing primarily to serve their own needs.”
BPDCentral.com likens such behavior to that of a “ never learned he is not the center of the world and becomes enraged when others don’t meet his immediate demands.”

]6. Takes Advantage of Others
According to WebMD, people are naturally drawn to narcissists, finding them “attractive, charismatic, and exciting.” As a result of this, people with NPD may not have any issues getting people to do what they want.
But in cases where the narcissist’s needs are not being met, they have no problem taking advantage of others—with little to no regard for the feelings or interests of these people. As a result of this behavior, narcissists often have very tumultuous friendships and romantic relationships that are quite short-lived.

7. Envious of Others
Experiencing envy of others is another common symptom of NPD. Because of their low self-esteem and need to be superior to others, narcissists see people have things they don’t, such as tangible items, status or admiration, as threats.
Narcissists may also believe that others are envious of them. And while this is exactly the type of attention the narcissist wants, accusing people of such feelings may put an immediate end to the relationship.

8. You Enjoy Being the Center of Attention
Since narcissists need constant praise from others in order to feed their low self-esteem, and because they feel superior to others, they crave attention at all times and will often seek it . “Narcissists dominate conversations,” says psychotherapist Joseph Burgo, PhD, the author of The Narcissist You Know. He tells BPDCentral.com “They feel compelled to talk about themselves, and they exaggerate their accomplishments.”
It’s important to note that “there are types of narcissism: ‘grandiose’ and ‘vulnerable,'” says Sander Van der Linden, PhD, a social psychologist at the University of Cambridge, Shape magazine. Not surprisingly, it’s the grandiose narcissist that craves attention and often receives it by being “outspoken, arrogant, self-loving, and entitled.”

9. Lack Empathy
This isn’t all that surprising considering all of the other traits on this list. Narcissists often lack empathy. They are unable empathize with others or understand other people’s perspectives comprehend their struggles. Healthline lists it as “having an inability or unwillingness recognize the needs and feelings of other people.”
“Sometimes a person with NPD can seem totally reasonable they say something that’s just outrageously insensitive,” says Cory Newman, PhD, a professor of psychology at the Perelman of Medicine at the University of Pennsylvania, when talking Prevention. “They’d be the person that complains about how annoying their father is someone ’s father just died.”

10. Boundless Ambition
Having goals or ambitions in life is a good thing, but narcissists take it a whole other level. Because they feel superior others and think they are “naturally special,” they often set boundless ambitions for themselves. Narcissists fantasize about being the best of the best.
“They fantasize about how much more powerful they will be, how much more beautiful, how much richer,” says marriage and family therapist Karyl McBride, PhD, when talking BPDCentral.com Their sense of entitlement and superiority is why they tend associate themselves with “ status” people and “obsess over status symbols (from the right shoes the right stroller) and even belittle anyone they don’t perceive be part of the exclusive club,” says BPDCentral.com

11. Incredibly Insecure
This might seem odd because of all the other characteristics on this list, such as being charming, entitled, and believing they are superior others, but people suffer from narcissism are usually incredibly insecure which is why they feel the need put down others.
According Sander van der Linden, PhD, a social psychologist at the University of Cambridge, there are types of narcissism: grandiose and vulnerable. is more outspoken while the other is more introverted. “The insecurity of vulnerable narcissists often seems stem from the fact that they internally question whether or not they are truly special and unique and therefore are more likely seek and rely on positive affirmation from others,” he says.

12. Incredibly Charming
Upon first impression, narcissists come off as incredibly charming and confident, but as the relationship develops their behavior becomes demeaning and aggressive, says Van der Linden Shape magazine. They often seek positions of power and leadership and will turn on the charm manipulate others into giving them what they want.
According to WebMD, it’s been proven that people are generally drawn to narcissists because of their confidence and charm. “Most people are drawn to narcissists and find them attractive, charismatic, and exciting. Confidence is charming. And successful leaders are often more assertive and demanding,” says WebMD. This is why they are seemingly quite popular, but in reality, it’s all just a smokescreen.

13. Extremely Competitive
WebMD lists of the common symptoms of narcissism as wanting to “strive to win, whatever it takes.” To back this claim up, BPDCentral.com talked to Joseph Burgo, PhD, a psychotherapist and author, also says narcissists are obsessed with winning. To someone with NPD, there is no in between — there are losers and winners. “They have make themselves be superior somebody else,” he says. Their incessant need win contributes their inability celebrate other people’s success or put themselves in a vulnerable situation where they don’t feel superior their opponent.

14. Hold Grudges
On the outside, narcissists might seem like they are extremely confident and that they don’t care what others think, but in reality, they are extremely sensitive and care very deeply about “maintaining their idealized image of themselves.” As a result, they don’t take too kindly to any sort of insult or disapproval, says Burgo to BPDCentral.com They end up holding a nasty grudge, because they take criticism as “a personal attack” and “a huge assault.” McBride adds, “If they feel slighted, or abandoned, they don’t get over it.”

15. Don’t Take Criticism Well
Most of us have experienced a time or when we’ve become frustrated over things not going our way or had a hard time taking criticism from others. It’s natural. We’re human. But when it comes a narcissist, their inability handle fault goes much deeper. They are unable cope when things don’t go their way and will be hard pressed ever admit fault when they are wrong which makes it impossible for them take any kind of criticism, even if it’s constructive.
“Although some narcissists are more introverted, many narcissists react defensively and even aggressively personal criticism or failures,” says Van der Linden when speaking Shape. “When confronted with a weakness, even in a neutral way, they can react with sudden and surprising outbursts of yelling, crying, anger, or other aggressive behaviors.”


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